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Working with Emotions
Anger, grief, loneliness, envy, the lot. Not how to stop feeling them. How to feel them without being run by them.
SITS 174 · 11 August 2026 · 19:03If This Were My Last PodcastIf this were my last podcast, what would I want to leave you with? Let everything happen to you. No feeling is final.Listen to this episode 
SITS 173 · 2 August 2026 · 18:23Happily Never AfterWhat if the thing you keep chasing is the exact reason you cannot catch it? There is no happily ever after, and that is good news.Listen to this episode 
SITS 171 · 28 June 2026 · 21:31What Your Anger Is Really SayingWhat is your anger actually saying? My teacher Jun Po told me he has never known an angry person who did not care.Listen to this episode 
SITS 168 · 31 May 2026 · 16:14The First 30 Seconds: Why Every Feeling Is a GiftWhere does a feeling actually come from, and what happens in the first thirty seconds of it?Listen to this episode 
SITS 166 · 3 May 2026 · 21:38"I'm Fine": When It's Armour, When It's Honest, and How to TellWhen you say I'm fine, is it armour or is it honest? Both, depending on the day. And sometimes fine is genuinely the right answer, because not every conversation is one you want.Listen to this episode 
SITS 144 · 7 April 2025 · 15:43Feel Deeply, Suffer Less: The Unexpected Power of EmotionCan you detach from pain without going numb to everything else? No, and that is the catch. Deny the hard feelings and the good ones go with them.Listen to this episode 
SITS 143 · 29 March 2025 · 17:43How to Stay Calm in the Face of AngerWhy does a raised voice make you feel sick? Your nervous system is not overreacting. It learned that anger meant danger, and it is still doing its job.Listen to this episode 
SITS 139 · 7 February 2025 · 13:47Emotional Connections: The Moments That Shape UsWhat do you actually remember of your life? Not the years. Just the moments.Listen to this episode 
SITS 126 · Inner Peace Foundations · 3 August 2024 · 18:19Beyond Happiness: The Importance of Nourishment for a Meaningful LifeWhat is the difference between something that makes you happy and something that nourishes you? Fireworks are wonderful. They do not feed you for the week.Listen to this episode 
SITS 121 · 27 April 2024 · 21:46Unlock the Hidden Gifts of Solitude and LonelinessWhat is the difference between loneliness and solitude? One arrives and one is chosen, and knowing which you are in changes what you do about it.Listen to this episode 
SITS 112 · 10 February 2024 · 25:45How to Turn Around Negative and Dark ThoughtsHow do you break the cycle when dark thoughts keep coming round again? Ian emailed me these questions, so this episode answers them one at a time.Listen to this episode 
SITS 79 · 13 January 2023 · 22:24Be Emotional Not DisturbableCan you feel everything deeply and still not be knocked over by it? That is the whole trick, and it is not the same thing as going cold.Listen to this episode 
SITS 67 · 2 January 2022 · 17:33This Is Where You Will FIND Your PASSIONWhy do we avoid the exact thing we most want to do? Because wanting it means we could fail at it, and I have been doing that for years.Listen to this episode 
SITS 62 · 31 July 2021 · 17:43The Paradox of HappinessWhy does happiness keep moving the moment you reach it? Because you are chasing an experience and calling it a state.Listen to this episode 
SITS 54 · 20 March 2021 · 11:26Perhaps Happiness is NOT a CHOICE?Why am I so happy in a wheelchair? I get asked constantly. The honest answer is that I am not always, and I no longer think happiness is simply a choice.Listen to this episode 
SITS 41 · 6 October 2020 · 17:45The Emotion That Stopped Me Living | What’s Yours?What has actually been stopping you asking for help? For me it was shame, and I had no idea until somebody put the word to it. The truth annoys you first, then frees you.Listen to this episode 
SITS 36 · 10 August 2020 · 18:32Can you be ANGRY and KIND?Can you be angry and kind at the same time? The real question is how mature your anger is.Listen to this episode 
SITS 28 · Hard Times & Resilience · 2 June 2020 · 18:30Getting Out Of Your Comfort ZoneHow do you actually get out of your comfort zone? Every quote online makes it sound easy. It is not.Listen to this episode 
SITS 26 · 5 May 2020 · 14:08When Hugging Your Dragons Is Not EnoughWhat if you have hugged all your dragons and you are still stuck? Then the thing holding you is not the dragon.Listen to this episode 
SITS 22 · 26 March 2020 · 14:20How To FACE Your FEAR And ENJOY Inner PeaceIs it weak to admit you are frightened? I said I was, and people rushed in to tell me there was no need.Listen to this episode 
SITS 20 · 9 March 2020 · 15:50Where is HAPPINESS?Where is happiness, exactly? Try to point at it. It is not up at the high moments and it is not the thing you are chasing. It sits on the ordinary line in the middle.Listen to this episode 
SITS 18 · 24 February 2020 · 17:08Best Way to COPE with LONELINESS?Where exactly does loneliness live in your body? Sit with it and find out, because that is more useful than any advice about getting out more.Listen to this episode Somewhere else
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