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Love, Empathy & Other People
The hardest part of most lives is other people. Family, friends, the ones who hurt us, and caring without it costing you everything.
SITS 176 · 6 September 2026 · 18:30Gates, Not Thorns: Are Your Boundaries a Prison?Are your boundaries keeping you safe, or keeping you stuck? I have never liked the word. This week a reader called Katherine gave me a better one: gates, not thorns.Listen to this episode 
SITS 169 · 7 June 2026 · 16:42Giving Space: Love Without Taking OverWhat is the hardest kind of love? Giving somebody space. Not walking away, not going cold, not pretending you do not care. Space that still says I am here.Listen to this episode 
SITS 153 · Hard Times & Resilience · 20 September 2025 · 20:02In a Hard World, Your Softest Skills Are Your Strongest AssetWhat cards were you actually dealt? I never finished school, I was kicked out of sixth form, and I have never passed an exam beyond GCSEs. You play the hand.Listen to this episode 
SITS 151 · 5 August 2025 · 20:57Empathy vs. Compassion: What's the Real Difference?What is the actual difference between empathy and compassion? Alan Watts called compassion the cosmic wink that says I see you, fellow player. That is the whole of it.Listen to this episode 
SITS 145 · 30 April 2025 · 19:49How Big Is Your Circle? Let's Talk Love and AcceptanceHow big is your circle, honestly? Not who you like. Who you would genuinely be there for. And most of us can accept a stranger more easily than our own brother.Listen to this episode 
SITS 135 · 3 December 2024 · 21:14Navigating the Holiday Chaos: A Guide to Compassionate MindfulnessHow do you find any peace at Christmas when everybody expects you to be upbeat?Listen to this episode 
SITS 123 · 8 June 2024 · 15:33Amae: The Art of Surrendering and Finding True StrengthWhat if giving up some control is a strength rather than a loss? The Japanese have a word for it, amae, and I live it every single day.Listen to this episode 
SITS 88 · 10 May 2023 · 22:57It’s Not About Them, It’s About You: Embracing Inner Peace in Challenging SituationsWhen somebody treats you badly, why does who you are matter more than who they are?Listen to this episode 
SITS 82 · 19 February 2023 · 22:15Don’t Let Them Bring You Down: Strategies for Dealing with Rude and Aggressive PeopleHow do you stop a rude stranger from ruining the rest of your day?Listen to this episode 
SITS 75 · 19 November 2022 · 20:07How to Genuinely Take Someone's PerspectiveCan you really know how somebody else feels? No. You can care deeply and still not be in their shoes, and admitting that is more useful than pretending.Listen to this episode 
SITS 69 · 21 February 2022 · 20:50Are You a Healthy PEOPLE PLEASER?Can you be a healthy people pleaser? Yes. The unhealthy version agrees to the tea it does not want, because disagreeing feels worse than eating it.Listen to this episode 
SITS 58 · 29 April 2021 · 15:27Is it possible to Love Everyone?How can I say I love you to somebody I have never met? Because your suffering is the same as my suffering, and once you see that there is nothing else to say.Listen to this episode 
SITS 56 · 5 April 2021 · 18:38What Would You Teach the World? (I asked Twitter and got amazing answers)If you could teach the whole world one thing, what would it be? I asked Twitter and read out every answer. Not one person said maths.Listen to this episode 
SITS 51 · 20 January 2021 · 16:47When Caring is Not Enough! Biden, Inauguration and ElvisWhat does Elvis missing a word teach you about being perfect? If you never miss one, you practised too much, and it is probably not coming from the heart any more.Listen to this episode 
SITS 40 · 4 October 2020 · 19:14‘Based on a True Story’ – This WILL STOP You ARGUINGDo you actually remember it, or did you build it? Every memory is based on a true story, and the gap between those two things ends most arguments.Listen to this episode 
SITS 29 · 12 June 2020 · 19:11The World DOESN'T NEED MORE LOVE #BlackLivesMatterDoes the world really need more love? I do not think so. I think it needs more understanding, and they are not the same.Listen to this episode 
SITS 25 · 29 April 2020 · 16:17Is there a difference between CARING and EMPATHYWhat is the difference between caring and empathy? They are not the same thing, and one of them is quietly about you.Listen to this episode 
SITS 15 · 22 January 2020 · 11:03Don't let EMPATHY DESTROY YOU | Healthy vs Unhealthy EmpathyCan you care about somebody without drowning in it? Empathy is not something you are given, it is something you grow. And there is a version that eats you alive.Listen to this episode 
SITS 11 · 26 November 2019 · 15:54How to live with a Big Heart without Suffering!Can you have a big heart without drowning in everybody else's pain? Yes, and the difference is where you put it down.Listen to this episode 
SITS 7 · 16 September 2019 · 8:27Simple Ways You Can Change the WorldDo you have to do something huge to make the world better? No. And the pressure to do something grand is exactly what stops most people doing anything at all.Listen to this episode Somewhere else
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